a crush a day: one part humorous & two scoops opinionated

Humorous: Talking about FMILF (famous men I’d like to freak) while let my mind go wild (PG-13 most of the time).
Opinionated: Dispelling racially constructed and stereotypical ideas of the typical guys that an Ghanaian-Canadian (black woman/BW) is attracted to and/or attracts.
Policies: Real life crushes will only be discussed when they show teachable moments. Their identities will be hidden with a nickname. No one will be called out directly through their real name or anything of that nature.
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Sunday, December 25, 2011

333. one man full unicorn



After watching episode after episode of Braxton Family Values I still don’t have anything more to add to this post on their overall relationships from one of my favourite bloggers. But it feels like every other day, I hear about Toni Braxton talking about the new unicorn—I mean guy that she is dating. 


On the Chelsea Lately show, Toni Braxton talked about the unicorn—I mean white guy she is dating: 


"It's kind of nice, I can't deny it. Well, just because it's something different. The skin feels different. That's kind of nice. It smells different. Is that in my head? No?" 


"But yeah, he's a really nice guy. He likes hiking. Black people don't hike. Is it called kayaking? See, I can't pronounce it. That stuff, too. Those are the differences, but other than that, it's pretty much the same because everyone's pretty international now, you know?" 


After hearing Toni talk in such a way I wanted to talk more about the theory of normality that I want to move further into the blog for 2012. For everyone else dating someone outside their cultures, we understand that men are human beings and not unicorns. With the talk of IR mainstreaming, I think that there is going to be a few more of these unicorn-man dialogues. A quality guy treats a woman with respect, a sh*tty guy treats a woman like garbage, across cultures. 


I think we should all just spread our holiday cheer and IR normality in the New Year. Happy holidays!


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Saturday, December 3, 2011

332. i don't give a F@#%!



An excerpt of Whoopis answer (which I love) on The View: Hot Topics: Is Interracial Dating Difficult? 


Its not. Its not harder to. Its not harder to. If you meet a guy that you like you can date him. Theres nothing saying that you have to date within your race unless thats something that's engrained in you. And I say that (interruption from Women) and I say that because most of the criticism that I got and not so much anymore because people know that I really dont give a sh--stuff. But I think it has more to do with what youve been told and what-where you want to be seen. You have to not give a f...(swallowing the rest of swearword for TV), to stand on your own and date who you want to.



What I want to as a response to Sherry’s pity party is that people have to stop thinking that it’s normal to be rejected because of your race when dating. If that is their issue then it is the other person’s problem. But other than race—sometimes a person just doesn’t mesh well with you because of their individual wants and needs. Or sometimes guys are just a$$holes.

Plus I am pretty sure that some guy out there would be checking for Sherry whether he is white or Asian (because she mentioned those races in particular) if she only believed. I really feel like when some people are talking about interracial dating they could insert white or Asian man or whatever other race man for unicorn and it would still make sense. We are not talking about talking to unicorns or gold pouring out of the rainbow here. Straight men like women period. 



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